Saturday, December 15, 2012

Where Are We Going Tonght?

“Daddy? Daddy?” I heard my cue that Micah was up from his nap. I snapped my laptop closed and started down the hall, “Micah, are you awake?” (I feel I can get away with asking ridiculously obvious questions when addressing a two-year-old – oh excuse me, two-and-a-HALF.) “Yea!” He called out just as I was reaching his door. There he stood, hair disheveled, eyes still sleepy and a nose that has been marathon training for more than a week, “Where are we going tonight?” he asked. I stopped for a moment, kinda stunned. First, I was impressed with his construction of his question. No grammatical errors, quite good pronunciation, and I’m quite sure that he knew exactly what he was asking. This past year, and especially these past few months, I have been impressed at Micah’s ability, that is, the two-year-old mind’s ability to pick up, understand, and use language. Even when he makes mistakes, the linguist in me often sees exactly why his brain took that particular route in creating the clause, and I’m further amazed.

 

Getting past the feeling of “Wow, God clearly programmed our species for complex verbal communication,” I was struck by something else in my son’s question, “Where are we going tonight?” It was asked with excitement, built on the recognition of a definite pattern he had observed. If he had had the words to express it, he would have said, “You know, last night we went to the house of the man that gave me the big black car, the night before that was the house of the nice lady who had singing penguins and had wrapped Christmas presents for Grace and me under her tree…and the night before that was church after which we packed out the Mexican restaurant. You know, so where are we going tonight?” It was a valid question, for during the eight weeks that we stayed down in Texas, we were probably not home about 80% of the evenings. That’s 5 or 6 nights a week with dinner engagements, not your typical routine for an introverted family like ours, especially with a brand new baby.

 

So why? Simply put, it was an onslaught of incredible expressions of hospitality, dear friends and a community of believers intentional about ministering to us. And boy have we been blessed. Three families opened up the empty rooms in their homes and shared their space in incredibly unselfish ways. Our hosts bought our groceries, five people brought over meals, about fifteen households hosted us for dinner at their homes, and there were at least a dozen times we went out to eat with friends (NONE of which were we allowed to pay our bill!). At first, the busy evening schedules were honestly a bit overwhelming and we didn’t quite know how to manage Micah’s bedtime being stretched night after night. But, as the madness became routine, we were overwhelmed with the blessing of it all: excellent home-cooked meals with no food prep, no clean up, and gracious hosts who emptied their toy closets for our busy little Micah to explore.

 

As I think through the blessings of these past two months, I’m blown away to realize that this hospitality saved us easily over $2000 in housing and food costs. In addition we were blessed with the hours upon hours of food preparation and clean up time. But most of all, we were blessed by the friendships and love of what we have come to know as our Texas family. We pray that God will faithfully return similar blessings to all those who so generously blessed us in these past weeks.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Down To The Last Dum Dum



One of the Top 100 things that we looked forward to doing during our time in the States was to “inspect” Micah’s Halloween Candy.  Of course, when writing that list, I was thinking of our little rodeo clown collecting a mountain of candy on behalf of our whole family’s taste buds. Well Micah did very well, knocking on doors and earning cute-points with all who opened them, but upon inspection of his loot, I felt something unexpected: my heart was overriding my taste buds’ plea!

Even now, one month later, I have a hard time raiding Micah stash after bedtime. Why? Certainly not because I don’t want to. After all, I am a pretty big sucker for sweets. No, instead, I find it difficult because I don’t want to rob him of the enjoyment of trying, say...for example, a Snickers. I love Snickers, but I know that Micah would love that Fun Size Snickers just as much, if not more than I would. And the dad in me wants to experience his enjoyment of it more than my own. It’s the same with ice cream. When we go to a DQ (which is more often than we ought to admit), we order a large size Mint Oreo Blizzard and share it between Andrea, Micah and me. All three of us love ice cream, but you won’t find me fighting for the lion’s share of the Blizzard. Why not? Because I love seeing both my wife and my son enjoy my ice cream with me. It goes for other things as well. When we went to a waterpark, I wanted so badly for Micah to enjoy the slides with me, which he did at first. But when one trip down bumped his noggin, his fun was over, and so was a part of mine. Sure I went down many more slides, but I would have gladly waited in a long line to go once with him down the “family slide”, than to zoom down a half a dozen Monster slides by myself.  Why? Seeing him enjoy something brings a far deeper joy than my own enjoyment alone. Another example, in October, I came down to Dallas a week earlier than the rest of the family. And for that week, I slept in a very nice trailer parked in a friend’s driveway. I loved having my own space, but I couldn’t stop thinking “Man, I wish Micah were here, he would love sleeping in this trailer!” I knew I would enjoy it more if I could enjoy it through the excitement of my two-year-old. Am I alone in this? I can’t believe that I am. I think it’s just that our abnormal lives magnify this feeling because there is only a 6-month window in which we have the joy of introducing Micah to our homeland/passport country. Cramming all the goodies of America into 6-months isn’t as easy as you might think.

Now if I, as a father, can experience a deeper level of joy in seeing my son enjoy something special, I ask myself, does my heavenly father delight in my enjoyment of Micah, his creation, and the life he gives? I have always respected Dr. John Piper and his emphasis on the sovereignty of God, but I never really got into his writings about Christian hedonism (ie. Desiring God). But, this idea of me enjoying life deeper through Micah’s pleasure is basically the same as the Christian hedonist who says God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him.

Imagine with me, God Almighty scoots to the edge of his throne in anticipation as I pour the mountain of Halloween candy onto the coffee table in front of my now wide-eyed two-year-old. The divine heartbeat quickens and an immeasurable smile spreads across his face as I play mountain guide in leading Micah through the different options – candy bars, chocolates, taffys, suckers, licorice, fruit snacks, etc. Finally after several minutes of careful scrutiny, Micah lands on what I was predicting all along – a lousy Dum Dum sucker. “I want this one,” he says with a full-face smile and excited eyebrows that race toward his hairline in anticipation.  My own taste buds pout in the corner of my mouth as yet another candy finds a different home, yet my heart rejoices in my son’s happy little dance around the room (“no running with a sucker!”). And to think, how awesome the possibility that God Almighty, sovereign over all, and our Great Father is taking a moment to enjoy my enjoyment of Micah enjoying his silly little Dum Dum. It’s hard to believe, but it may not be far from the truth.